It is absolutely amazing to me how God created things to be. There are so many things in life that just blow my mind. One thing that is really baffling me is how you can think with your entire being that you love someone more than you could ever love anyone, and next thing you know, you realize you love them even more than you did before. I have never fully understood how that worked. How a person could love someone more and more, and it never stop? My mind tells me there has to be a limit. But God shows me there does not have to be one. Just like our relationship with him continues to grow until the day we die (if we chose to work on it continually), so can the love we have for our spouse. It is amazing.
I pray that this love never comes to a point where it stops, because it is way too much of a blessing while it continues to grow.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
A Lot About Love
Love seems to be a huge topic of thought and conversation in my life. Every since I can remember, it has been all I could think about. It doesn't help that my favorite genre of movies is romance, or romantic comedies. There is just a lot of love in life, it is everywhere.
I was deeply saddened, though, today while I watched a movie about a man and a woman who meet each other and decide to get married, all in a days work. This movie made it out to be an adventure. And the actors talked about, "why not get married without really getting to know someone? Half of marriages end up in divorce anyways, right?" I was first saddened to see that they would throw marriage around so flippantly, like it's just something that people do because everyone else is doing it. Throughout the movie they had their fair share of ups and downs, and finding out lies, and feeling the need to seek comfort from someone from the opposite sex whom was not their spouse. It was all so twisted, and just... wrong.
I was hoping for the best with the ending and trying to give it the benefit of the doubt, but I was highly disappointed that in the end, the couple decided to stay divorced, but continue living together and acting as a married couple. They did this because they saw no point in "marriage" when they felt they could have the same relationship, minus the commitment.
It disheartened me so much to know that those who do not have Christ do not even understand the concept of marriage anymore. It has become absolutely meaningless in today's society. Although, it would be very hard for someone who does not know Christ, and does not know why God created marriage in the first place, to understand the point in being legally bound to someone when they can have it all without the legal part. If only we could help them all understand the full meaning of marriage and how God intended it. Maybe, just maybe, it would have more meaning to them.... but I doubt it. Sometimes I wish I could fix the world, but I know I can't. The best I know how to do is just pray for them.
In the mean time, I am enjoying learning how to love Ryan the right way. I am loving serving him out of Godly submission. It changes one's whole perspective on cooking and cleaning when we understand how to submit the way God meant it, and then how to recieve the love that the husband is called by God to give in return.
I was deeply saddened, though, today while I watched a movie about a man and a woman who meet each other and decide to get married, all in a days work. This movie made it out to be an adventure. And the actors talked about, "why not get married without really getting to know someone? Half of marriages end up in divorce anyways, right?" I was first saddened to see that they would throw marriage around so flippantly, like it's just something that people do because everyone else is doing it. Throughout the movie they had their fair share of ups and downs, and finding out lies, and feeling the need to seek comfort from someone from the opposite sex whom was not their spouse. It was all so twisted, and just... wrong.
I was hoping for the best with the ending and trying to give it the benefit of the doubt, but I was highly disappointed that in the end, the couple decided to stay divorced, but continue living together and acting as a married couple. They did this because they saw no point in "marriage" when they felt they could have the same relationship, minus the commitment.
It disheartened me so much to know that those who do not have Christ do not even understand the concept of marriage anymore. It has become absolutely meaningless in today's society. Although, it would be very hard for someone who does not know Christ, and does not know why God created marriage in the first place, to understand the point in being legally bound to someone when they can have it all without the legal part. If only we could help them all understand the full meaning of marriage and how God intended it. Maybe, just maybe, it would have more meaning to them.... but I doubt it. Sometimes I wish I could fix the world, but I know I can't. The best I know how to do is just pray for them.
In the mean time, I am enjoying learning how to love Ryan the right way. I am loving serving him out of Godly submission. It changes one's whole perspective on cooking and cleaning when we understand how to submit the way God meant it, and then how to recieve the love that the husband is called by God to give in return.
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Learning to Love
I have pondered quite a bit today about whether or not I would have anything to blog about just yet; but as I was thinking about it I started to remember a topic that has been on my heart as of late. I have been trying to figure out how I can love my husband the way God intended in a marriage. And here is why I have been pondering this.
Ryan and I have been married for just a hair under two months now, and I have already found myself being frustrated with certain things. Not only do guys who are stepping freshly out of bachelorhood have some really disturbing habits, but I have also been finding myself slightly annoyed with having to cook and clean and clean up after a second person. Life was much more simple when I only had to look after myself. I am learning very quickly that the amounts of things to be done become magnified by way more than what it seems like they should be with only one extra person. Dirty dishes in the sink seem to accumulate like we have had guests for every meal. There is laundry enough for five or more people it seems... how many times does a man change clothes in one day?! For goodness sakes, I thought that was supposed to be a female issue. But regardless, these are some of the things rolling around in my mind these days...
Because of all this new found frustration that was stemming from the "man of my dreams", I was starting to worry about the health of our marriage. I began to panic, asking myself if I should be having such feelings when we are still in the very beginning stages of our "honeymoon phase". But while trying to figure all of this out, I have been learning that the health of our marriage is going to be based on the health of our relationship with Christ. I need to have a healthy relationship with Christ to be able to know how to have a healthy marriage with my husband.
My goal is, wanting to learn to love my husband as Christ calls me to. So in order to be able to love Ryan properly, I have to be able to love Christ properly. I can't say I love God, and leave the rest blank. I need to start working on loving God and doing things for him because he is my Lord and Savior, and in all of that I will be able to do things out of love and not out of duty. If I am where I need to be with Christ, it will be so much easier for me to not get so annoyed with Ryan for sensless things. In fact, I have already experienced a little of how, as my relationship with Christ strengthens, my ideas on why I do things have been changing. Instead of doing laundry because it's overflowing from the bedroom out into the hallway, I do it because I love Ryan as I am learning to love God, and I want to do it for him because I want to care for him. Not because it's my duty.
Needless to say, I am learning a lot. Marriage is wonderful and God is an amazing artist when it comes to creating wonderful, beautiful things.
Ryan and I have been married for just a hair under two months now, and I have already found myself being frustrated with certain things. Not only do guys who are stepping freshly out of bachelorhood have some really disturbing habits, but I have also been finding myself slightly annoyed with having to cook and clean and clean up after a second person. Life was much more simple when I only had to look after myself. I am learning very quickly that the amounts of things to be done become magnified by way more than what it seems like they should be with only one extra person. Dirty dishes in the sink seem to accumulate like we have had guests for every meal. There is laundry enough for five or more people it seems... how many times does a man change clothes in one day?! For goodness sakes, I thought that was supposed to be a female issue. But regardless, these are some of the things rolling around in my mind these days...
Because of all this new found frustration that was stemming from the "man of my dreams", I was starting to worry about the health of our marriage. I began to panic, asking myself if I should be having such feelings when we are still in the very beginning stages of our "honeymoon phase". But while trying to figure all of this out, I have been learning that the health of our marriage is going to be based on the health of our relationship with Christ. I need to have a healthy relationship with Christ to be able to know how to have a healthy marriage with my husband.
My goal is, wanting to learn to love my husband as Christ calls me to. So in order to be able to love Ryan properly, I have to be able to love Christ properly. I can't say I love God, and leave the rest blank. I need to start working on loving God and doing things for him because he is my Lord and Savior, and in all of that I will be able to do things out of love and not out of duty. If I am where I need to be with Christ, it will be so much easier for me to not get so annoyed with Ryan for sensless things. In fact, I have already experienced a little of how, as my relationship with Christ strengthens, my ideas on why I do things have been changing. Instead of doing laundry because it's overflowing from the bedroom out into the hallway, I do it because I love Ryan as I am learning to love God, and I want to do it for him because I want to care for him. Not because it's my duty.
Needless to say, I am learning a lot. Marriage is wonderful and God is an amazing artist when it comes to creating wonderful, beautiful things.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Appetizer
As I have said in my "about me" section on my profile, I have always loved to write. Ever since I can remember I was writing stories of all kinds. I even used to dream of being a famous author. I prefer writing by hand... but who has time for that anymore?! So here I sit, writing my very first blog. Ready for a new adventure.
As my first piece of witty entertainment, I offer you your appetizer. Please sit tight and enjoy the rest of your meal, and don't judge the dessert by the main course. :)
As my first piece of witty entertainment, I offer you your appetizer. Please sit tight and enjoy the rest of your meal, and don't judge the dessert by the main course. :)
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